Gifts Send a Message
Here’s the issue when you’re giving somebody a present: they’re going to read into what you’ve done. When it comes to extracting meaning from a document, that is called “exegesis”, and properly done, it doesn’t impute an intention to the writer that wasn’t there. When you read into a document something that it doesn’t intend to communicate, that is eisegesis.
Now, eisegesis is a term that specifically refers to text analysis. Here’s the thing: the principle behind it is often definitive of the opinions people have after they get a gift. They read into the gift something you never intended.
Give a lady a little two-dollar bottle of Chambord you picked up at the gas station on the way to her Independence Day party, she could either fall in love with you, or become resentful; even if you’re just being nice, and there’s nothing deeper at play. If a person’s love language is gift-giving, your first gift is a watershed moment for their emotional perception of you.
If someone thinks you’re enamored of them, and you’re not, then a gift from you will strike them as flirtation, and they might put up a wall. In an occupational environment, these realities are a lot more important to be aware of. If you make the wrong step there, it could impact your job. Accordingly, consider the following tips to avoid that circumstance.
1.Give Gifts That Can’t Send Much of a Message
Say you give a girl a box of chocolates. Now say you give a girl a sandwich. Which do you think is going to be more romantic? Obviously, the former. But a sandwich; that could have just been a misplaced order at the fast food joint, and it could be you’re just kind enough to give it to her instead of taking it for yourself.
It’s very hard for the gift of a sandwich to communicate romantic intent in the workplace. Maybe in the midst of a long-term marriage or other relationship, there’s a different connotation. At the office, being given food like that is just going to say, “Hey, you’re valued; hope you enjoy this snack.”
2.Specific Strategy for Female Colleagues
Whether you’re a guy or a girl, in 2022, giving gifts to ladies can be risky. Just coming up with an idea for a gift can be hard. Here are some gifts for female colleagues you can find online. If you find a great gift but don’t want to send the wrong message, buy it twice and give it to two different people in the presence of one another. That makes it hard to get the wrong idea.
3.The Anonymous Approach
Sometimes you care about somebody enough to give them a gift, but you don’t want them to get the wrong idea. What’s the solution? Well, you could give them a gift anonymously. They get the joy and benefit of the gift, and never know who gave it to them. Just don’t do this too often or it can be creepy.
Gifts That Make Work More Bearable
You don’t want someone thinking you love them, or you’re trying to manipulate them. However, anonymous gift-giving, giving the same gift simultaneously, and choosing presents that are hard to read into, represent strong strategies for giving your coworkers gifts.